Tynee’ Talks: Ten Years a Slave- Sexual Bondage with Jordyn Anese
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Tynee` Talks with Jordyn Anese about her Ten Years a Slave to Sex (TYAS) initiative. Jordyn hopes that through her initiative she can empower young ladies to free themselves from sexual bondage and learn to be comfortable with their inner and outer self.
Tynee`Talks: What prompted you to start the TYAS initiative?
Jordyn Anese: I got to a point where I was disgusted with myself. I had a self-actualization moment where I just wanted to be free. One day I was sitting around with my friends and we all realized we were celibate. Or celibacy was for different reasons, but something about this discovery, made me realize that God was truly calling me to break free from this sexual bondage for a reason. I kept hearing the word: Transparency. I knew it was time for me to be honest with myself and be transparent. My transparency would eventually help me to empower other young women. My story isn’t just my story, its other people’s story as well.
TT: Why do you feel like sex enslaved you?
JA: I was enslaved to a feeling. I thought sex was the biggest way to express love. I thought it was the only way. I thought that if I didn’t have sex with the guy I was with, the relationship would end. I thought if I didn’t do it, someone else would.
TT: I think as women, we’ve all felt that way. Always in constant battle to “keep him”.
TT: Do you feel you place your value in your sex?
JA: Absolutely! I placed my entire value of self in sex. I now understand that sex is a gift and a gateway to life. It should be valued, but that’s not where my value begins or ends.
TT: What lesson do you wish you would have learned ten years ago?
JA: I wish I wouldn’t have lost my moral compass. I strayed from my early teachings. I wish I would have learned to value myself more. I wish I would have found a way to work through my first real relationship.
TT: What are the two most important things you’ve learned during this process?
JA: Number one, I learned to ‘Stay in the Pocket’ Staying in the pocket means sticking to what you believe in. I’m sticking to celibacy to draw closer to God. And number two, I learned how to discipline myself. Celibacy is more than denying sex, it’s about discipline.
TT: What does sex mean to you now?
JA: It means protecting my heart. I believe in soul ties. So now, I realize that abstaining from sex protects me from other people’s issues. It protects me from taking on other people’s burdens.
TT: What do you hope to instill in young women or women in general?
JA: Freedom of choice. Don’t just do it because you think you have to. And, confidence.
TT: How can women break free from sex slavery?
JA: Change your mindset. Everything starts with the minds. Someone once said, “If you kill the mind, the body will follow.” Be comfortable with losing friends. Don’t go where you used to go. It’s all a process of elimination.
You can learn more about Jordyn’s #TYAS initiative via her Youtube channel https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=
GZubQK0YGrw or follow her on Instagram/Twitter/Facebook @JordynAnese